How to Deal with Extreme Emotional Pain

In the past, pain was a very normal thing in my daily life.

As much as I try not to be always hurting, I couldn’t escape from it because the pain was caused by people I care so much about. It was a hard situation to be in and I have very little chance of escaping from it.  

I would go for months, even years enduring pain everyday, that sometimes it would manifest into physical pain. 

I didn’t know then that I was already suffering from Complex PTSD. Complex PTSD means that I experience continuous trauma for a long period of time. When you reached this kind of pain, you’re no longer normal, and you’re susceptible to wrong judgment. Sometimes, you no longer think straight and do the right thing. Your mindset is just messed up.

But the laws of the universe state that what you feel, think, and embody is going to manifest into your reality. If constant pain is your normal, your programming could be sabotaging your life.

I knew that I had to get out of this pain and trauma, because if not, I’m just gonna manifest more painful and traumatizing events in my life. I had to take healing my spirit seriously, and fast. 

Since you’re reading this article, I believe that you’re suffering from extreme emotional pain too. Here’s how to deal when you’re hurting so bad:

Feel the pain

A common way most people deal with pain is by numbing it. And this is a very destructive thing to do.

I used to numb my pain by binge-eating. It was my go-to addiction back then. But it was only harming my health, it was making me feel worse and it wasn’t solving anything.

When you numb your feelings out, you might even think that you’re outsmarting it by escaping it, but you’re not. If you don’t face pain, it will only keep on coming back until you finally give up and learn what it is trying to teach you. 

Instead of numbing out, feel the pain. Find where the pain is manifesting in your body. If you feel blockages in your chest, your head or your stomach, put your hand in that part and just take a moment to feel it. Cry your brains out if you must. It’s going to hurt so bad. Keep fighting. You might feel that you wanna give up. There’s a big chance that you might wanna kill yourself just so the pain would stop, because it fucking. hurts. like hell. But please don’t. I promise, this pain is going to be over. I know that it’s hard to believe but it will. And when it’s over, and if you just wait a little more, you’re gonna experience the happiest moments of your life. But for now, please survive this. There’s a beautiful gift that you’ll get from this.

Disclaimer: feel the pain, but don’t dwell on it. Dwelling on it for too long will only make the pain deeper, and will only make it harder for you to bounce back up. Just feel it, and let the pain subside.

But if the pain is really so strong that you really can’t take it anymore, allow yourself for some release, even through unhealthy ways. Just don’t do anything destructive. Maybe you could eat a donut or 2. Maybe you could do a rage-fest where you just release your anger or whatever it is in your body that’s causing you pain. It’s okay. Just promise yourself that you’ll try to stand back up when it’s over.

Don’t pass it to someone else.

Sometimes, when we’re suffering, we have a tendency to pass this suffering to someone else. It’s such a release to blame or lash out your anger to someone.

But passing the pain is never a good thing. It only creates the cycle of pain that already exists in this world. You’re only going to hurt innocent people who don’t deserve it.

Don’t pass it to someone else, but don’t bottle it up too. There are so many ways to release the pain in a good way. You can scream your heart out, punch your pillows, write all your feelings, do extreme exercise and many other ways. You can even turn your pain into art.

Or my favorite one: share it to the universe, like you would to your best friend. 

Be the bigger person and end the cycle of suffering with you. 

Reflect on what the pain’s teaching you

I strongly believe that every pain is a teacher. It means that somewhere in that situation, a lesson is waiting to be unlocked so we can grow.

When I was younger, I would dream of helping those who are in need. I would dream of accessing extreme wealth so that I could have the power to help people who needs my help.

When I asked the universe to make this dream come true, the universe gave me challenges that hurt me in the process, but taught me so much as well. And the lessons I learned from them helped me start building the life that I really want, and use my knowledge of pain to understand the pain of others really well. Because of this, I became more effective with the work that I’m doing.

When I came to understand this, I now know what to do when I experience pain. I know that if I ever find myself hurting, I just gotta ask the universe what She is trying to teach me. I would get my journal out, write what I’m feeling, and let my higher self tell me what it is that I’m supposed to learn here.

It’s not about how painful the experience was. It was what kind of person you come out from it.

Surrender the pain

Once you’re done feeling the pain, and reflecting on it, it’s time to release the pain and give it up to the universe.

Imagine yourself lifting up the energy of all your anger, worries, pains, fears and shame to the universe. Imagine it being sucked out of you, lightening your heavy body. In exchange, the universe gives you over-pouring love that heals your heart and soul.

Surrendering is so powerful, that after you do it, you will immediately feel lighter.

Believe that everything is happening for your highest good, and that it’s going to be over soon.

And this isn’t always easy. When you are in pain, it’s so freaking difficult to make sense of things. 

But if you only trust and go through this period of your life the right way, things will soon unfold and you will soon realize why all these things happened, and you’ll discover that it’s because you’re meant to grow into a more amazing human being.

Use this experience as an exercise of your faith to the universe. Use this to establish a deeper connection with the divine.

Release the pain energetically and heal yourself.

Even though you’ve surrendered your pain, you still need to deeply heal yourself from all these trauma. 

Achieve healing through forgiveness. The energy of love and forgiveness will heal all wounds. 

If you want to take your healing to the next level, you can check out my newest program, Project Bliss. My healing module will help you heal your life energetically, that you will start to feel your vibes squeaky clean afterward. 

Ask for the universe’s light

The universe’s light and love will mend your pain. To experience it, you just gotta ask for it. Talk to the universe and ask. Allow the universe’s healing aura to spread through your whole being. 

Ask love from people.

A lot of us are too afraid to just ask that, because we thought that we had to go through this alone. 

Sure, asking for love can be toxic if you are depending your entire existence on someone else’s love. But what I’m saying here is to ask for love, when you have tried all of the above and you’re still needing some strength. 

Asking for love isn’t you needing validation from anyone. This is you asking for a little fuel of loving energy, so you can get strong enough to pick yourself up.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help, especially if you’re on the brink of ending your life. Text someone you can trust to tell you that they love you. Maybe a friend, or a family member that you know you can count on. Just tell them that you need some love. You don’t have to tell them your challenges. You don’t have to open up. You just gotta ask for them to tell you “I love you and I care about you.” Or you can tell them, “Please tell me why I matter. I really need to hear it.”

If you don’t have someone, feel free to join groups online, and ask for love. Love from strangers work too. 

Sometimes, what we need to do is to take the initiative to ask what we truly need. A lot of people are willing to be helpful, if you just let them know. A lot of people wants to give to us, we just gotta ask.   

Bombard your life with love and positivity.

The easiest way to bounce back up from your low state is to bombard your world with all things positive and high-vibes. Write a gratitude list. Remind yourself of all the beautiful things in life. Speak positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your blessings that you have right now. Do everything that will bring you back in the space of love.

If you struggle in looking for the positive in times like this, it’s important to make creating happy vibes easier. If you need help, I created a high-vibe planner to help you bounce back up from low-vibes to high-vibes instantly.

Experiencing pain isn’t easy. But the universe will not give you something you cannot overcome. Take this experience as an opportunity to exercise your faith and trust to the universe. Sending you love, light and virtual power hugs! I’m proud of you for coming this far. You are strong and amazing. You can overcome this, love. I love you 💖