In the past, pain was a very normal thing in my daily life.
As much as I try not to be always hurting, I couldn’t escape from it because the pain was caused by people I care so much about. It was a hard situation to be in and I have very little chance of escaping from it.
I would go for months, even years enduring pain everyday, that sometimes it would manifest into physical pain.
I didn’t know then that I was already suffering from Complex PTSD. Complex PTSD means that I experience continuous trauma for a longer period of time. When you reached this kind of pain, you’re no longer normal, and you’re susceptible to wrong judgment. Sometimes, you no longer think straight and do the right thing.
Since you’re reading this article, and you may or may not have complex PTSD, I believe that you’re suffering from extreme emotional pain too. Here’s how to deal:
Feel the pain
A common way most people deal with pain is by numbing it. And this is a very destructive thing to do.
I used to numb my pain by binge-eating. It was my go-to addiction back then. But it was only harming my health, it was making me feel worse and it wasn’t solving anything.
When you numb your feelings out, you might even think that you’re outsmarting it by escaping it, but you’re not. If you don’t face pain, it will only keep on coming back until you finally give up and learn what it is trying to teach you.
Instead of numbing out, feel the pain. Find where the pain is manifesting in your body. If you feel blockages in your chest, your head or your stomach, put your hand in that part and just take a moment to feel it. Cry your brains out if you must.
Disclaimer though: feel the pain, but don’t dwell on it. Dwelling on it for too long will only make the pain deeper, and will only make it harder for you to bounce back up. Just feel it, and let the pain subside.
But if the pain is really so strong that you really can’t take it, allow yourself for some release, even through unhealthy ways. Just don’t do anything destructive. Maybe you could eat a donut or 2. Maybe you could do a rage-fest where you just release your anger or whatever it is in your body that’s causing you pain. It’s okay. Just promise yourself that you’ll try to stand back up when it’s over.
Don’t pass it to someone else.
Sometimes, when we’re suffering, we have a tendency to pass this suffering to someone else. It’s such a release to blame or lash out your anger to someone.
But passing the pain is never a good thing. It only creates the cycle of pain that already exists in this world. You’re only going to hurt innocent people who don’t deserve it.
Don’t pass it to someone else, but don’t bottle it up too. There are so many ways to release the pain in a good way. You can scream your heart out, punch your pillows, write all your feelings, do extreme exercise and many other ways. You can even turn your pain into art.
Or my favorite one: share it to the universe, like you would to your best friend.
Be the bigger person and end the cycle of suffering with you.
Reflect on what the pain’s teaching you
I strongly believe that every pain is a teacher. It means that somewhere in that situation, a lesson is waiting to be learned so we can grow.
When I was younger, I would dream of helping those who are in need. I would dream of accessing extreme wealth so that I could have the power to help people who needs my help.
When I asked the universe to make this dream come true, the universe gave me challenges that hurt me in the process, but taught me so much as well. And the lessons I learned from them helped me start building the life that I really want.
When I come to understand this, I now know what to do when I experience pain. I would get my journal out, write what I’m feeling, and let my higher self tell me what is it that I’m supposed to learn here.
It’s not how painful the experience was. It was what kind of person you come out from it.
Surrender the pain
Once you’re done feeling the pain, and reflecting on it, it’s time to release the pain and give it up to the universe.
Imagine yourself lifting up all your anger, worries, pains, and fears to the universe, and in exchange, the universe gives you over-pouring love that will heal your heart.
Surrendering is so powerful, that after you do it, you will immediately feel lighter.
Believe that everything is happening for your highest good, and that it’s going to be over soon.
And this isn’t always easy. When you are in pain, it’s so freaking difficult to make sense of things.
But if you only trust and go through this period of your life the right way, things will soon unfold and you will soon realize why all these things happened, and you’ll discover that it’s because you’re meant to grow into a more amazing human being.
Release the pain energetically and heal yourself.
Even though you’ve surrendered your pain, you still need to deeply heal yourself from all these trauma.
To achieve healing is through forgiveness. The energy of love and forgiveness will heal all wounds.
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Ask for the universe’s light
Only the universe’s light and love can mend your pain. To experience it is you gotta ask for it. Talk to the universe and ask for help. Allow the universe’s healing aura to spread through your whole being.
Experiencing pain isn’t easy. But the universe will not give you something you cannot overcome. Take this experience as an opportunity to exercise your faith and trust to the universe, love. Sending you love, light and virtual power hugs! You can overcome this, love. 💖