How to Create Clarity of What You Really Want to Do in Life

Hello love! Today’s blog post is about creating clarity of what you really want to do in your life. So if you’re still unclear about this area, keep reading.

I love talking about work, because we spend almost 50% of our waking hours everyday doing work. It takes a huge fraction of our lives, and whether we’re happy or not in this area will definitely affect our overall happiness.

A few people in this world already know what they wanna do at an early age. I believe Beyonce started singing at age 7. And the world is blessed because of this, right?

So yeah, some people? They started really early. Good for them, right? But me? I’m not one of those people. I think, I’m about 26 – which was just last year – when I became really clear of what I really wanna do in life.

And I’m guessing you’re here because you’re like me too. You’re still unclear and confused. Maybe you even feel lost and directionless, that sometimes, it makes you feel anxious about the future. 

But don’t worry. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. Everybody has different timelines. Doesn’t matter whether you’re 18 or 50+ and you still haven’t figured out life. It’s never too late to discover what you really want to do. Plus, it’s not a competition. Everybody has different stories, and everybody’s story is important.

I have a few tips for you so you can create clarity of what you wanna do. These tips are things I did that helped me figure out my true purpose and mission.

Define your values

One of my favorite things to teach to people is to discover their values. Why? Because when you’re clear on your core values, it’ll be easier for you to make decisions. Because when you know what matters to you, you’ll know what things to say yes and no to. 

Let’s say for example, one of your core values is freedom, then maybe a 9-5 job where you’re being bossed around isn’t the right fit for you. If your core value is stability, you might prefer a secure job that pays you monthly without miss. If creativity is your value, you might wanna explore the world of design, arts or something that allows you to practice your creativity. 

If you have no idea what your core values are, I have a blog post that will help you define them. Read it here.  

Take consistent action

And what I mean by this is to go out and try everything! Explore! Write everything that you wanna try, and do them. Because when you take consistent action answer your what if questions (e.g. what if being a stand-up comedian is my path?, etc.), you truly see what you like and what you don’t. We humans sometimes decide that we like or don’t like something before we actually experience it. But what usually happens is we end up realizing that some things are only a good idea in our head, but in reality, they kinda suck. 

I remember wanting to be a vocalist in a band. So I tried that. But I realized that even though I love music and I’m a good singer, I love solving problems more. I love creating change and helping people more. Plus, when I saw the culture in the music industry, it’s not what I was expecting it to be. And I wasn’t that much in love in singing to push myself into creating a new culture for myself.  

That’s why taking consistent action and really becoming aware of what you feel about your experiences are really important. You gotta put yourself in the situation so you can assess whether it’s something you wanna do for a long time.

And as you take action, you’ll discover hidden talents that you have. Most of the time, we’re indecisive because we don’t have enough “data” to base our decisions from. And what I mean about data is experiences that we can use to connect the dots that will point us to what we’re really meant to do. 

When I was young, I only knew that I’m good at certain things – singing, writing, solving math problems, creating new things in my head (I remember inventing games and words when I was a kid),  and writing really fast on the blackboard, (I was unbeatable in those classroom competitions lol).

I never realized that I’m a good organizer, planner and that I have an eye for design until later in my 20s, when I encountered those areas. I never realized that one of my hidden skills is my supportive attitude (I mean, I have no idea that that’s a skill!) which made me perfect to be a mentor. 

If you tell my college self that I’m gonna be a spiritual teacher who designs things and teach and coach people about manifesting, self-love and spirituality, I’m gonna laugh my butt off at you, and tell you “Are you high?!”

But here we are. So yes, you will never really discover something about yourself if you haven’t tried certain things. So go out and do stuff.

Tweak things along the way

When you take action and you encounter things that you don’t like, feel free to tweak things and align it to your preference. Do this until you finally reach the destination where you’re doing the things that you’re really good at and love doing. 

Remember, you can totally create your ideal reality. Have a conversation with your intuition, ask for help and let her take you to the right path. 

Define your zone of genius

According to Gay Hendricks, there are 4 zones of work that humans have. They are your:

Zone of incompetence – these are things that you don’t like doing and you really suck at

Zone of competence – these are things that you’re doing just fine but you don’t really love doing. 

Zone of excellence – these are things that you’re really skilled at. These are skills that you actually developed and cultivated over time.

Zone of genius – these are things that you’re naturally really good at. When you do these things, you just always feel inspired and when you’re working, you flow. 

The goal to be truly happy with work is to do work in your zone of genius. Because when you do, you’re aligned to your soul’s true mission.

Once you find what you want, commit to it consistently

Once you discovered your zone of genius and the work that you really feel called to do, commit to it 100%. Working on your true calling doesn’t mean that you’re gonna be free from challenges. You’ll encounter many of them, and make sure you keep doing it.  there are still gonna be challenges that you’ll have to face. Don’t mistake it as a message from the universe that it isn’t for you. 

But this is gonna come naturally. That’s the thing about doing work that you’re madly in love with – you’ll never give up because it just makes you extremely happy. 

Find a way to do it without compromising your finances.

Let’s face it – money is the main issue here. But you don’t have to compromise your security in doing this.

There are 3 ways to live around this: either (1) you find a way to monetize doing this, (2) find other ways you can earn money that won’t take you enough time so you can do work you love without having to depend your finances on it, and (3) you work on a job that will give you the financial security you seek, while you try to figure out ways you can transition to the work you love doing. Decide which one you’ll take.

I truly believe that doing something you love doesn’t have to make you poor. Because what’s the point of doing something when you can’t even eat or have a house to live in??

Finding and creating your true path is scary. This requires you to be ‘unreasonable’ so you can ‘bend’ your reality to your liking. But we live in a vast universe where the possibilities are limitless, so for sure, you can pull this off. Once you made this work, it’s gonna be so much more fulfilling than being stuck in a job that you hate.